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Eileen Joy Gray

August 3, 1940 — March 14, 2021

Eileen Joy Gray was born August 3rd, 1940 in Walla Walla, Washington to Harry and Beatrice Ross. She was previously married and raised three sons; David, Gary, and Doug Blehm. She married Gary Gray on September 16th, 1995 in Colorado Springs, CO. They moved to Tulsa, Oklahoma in 2003.

She was a fabulous secretary to an advertising firm in Colorado Springs for many years. She would also dabble with different home businesses.

Eileen was a member of the Red Hat Society for many years and was one of four friends who called themselves "The Gemstones." They continued this close friendship and stayed in touch until her passing. Eileen was a long-time member of Tulsa Bible Church and active in the Women's Bible Study. She was known to many as "Grandma Joy," and a favorite thing to tell anyone she had just met was, "Hi, I'm Eileen and I lean on Jesus."

Eileen is survived by her husband Gary, of 25 years; her sister Judy Stephens; her children, David and Darla Blehm, Gary Blehm, and Doug and Katy Blehm; and six grandchildren, Andrew, Amanda, Lazer, Levi, Sam, and Addi.

Eileen's faith sustained her to the end and she will be missed by her family and many friends.

Arrangements are entrusted to Schaudt's Tulsa Funeral Service & Cremation Care, 5757 South Memorial Drive, Tulsa, OK 74145.

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Thursday, April 8, 2021

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